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Can you see it?

One woman in pink blouse dancing in a luxurious environment, one older woman on a bench reading a book with the cane leaning on her knee

When you look at these pictures, can you see something special?

Can you tell the difference between these two women? Besides the age.
Yes, that’s right, you see a happy and powerful woman, dancing in a luxurious environment (that’s me). And yes, you see a peaceful lady, reading a book at a bench in a park, with her cane leaning on her knee. But there is something else. Still doesn’t see it?

Can you really not see that I am in pain?

No, of course you can’t see it. The invisible pain, you can’t see it just by looking at a person. This constant pain that I am always having, every single day for 30 years, 24/7. I can’t tell you how many times I wished I had a “snap-on-plaster” to a leg, just to make people around me aware that I might need a seat on the bus or just not run in to me. I don’t want people to feel sorry for me, but I want people to be careful and respectful, because if someone push into my back can be devastating for me.

I made the pain to my faithful companion, but it took me many years before I was able to do that, to stop that inside war in my body where I had the pain as my hateful enemy.

I talked to a lot of physiotherapists and naprapats that I know, because I want to collaborate with them. I have a lot of knowledge about living with long term pain, they have lots of patients. But they tell me they don’t have that kind of patients. What?! Are you sure? You know that you have long term pain when you had the pain for at least three months, and it doesn’t even have to be pain 24/7. I think many people think of people with chronic pain as an older lady with a cane and having trouble to walk. I guess you could look at the picture above and some of you might say that the older woman has pain. Maybe she doesn’t have pain, she maybe has a problem with the balance and need the cane for balance.

I think actually no one of them thought of me as a person who lives with long term pain until I started to talk about it in public. Most of us who lives with long term pain doesn’t mention it very often. When someone asks me how I’m doing, I’m not telling them that I have pain, unless I have a really bad day having trouble to walk. The pain is a part of us but we don’t want to be defined by the pain.
I don’t know anyone who likes to talk about their pain, it is something that most people don’t want to be associated with. And for women it is even harder to get the right diagnose and to be taken seriously. I hope it’s getting better, but as everything else regarding women’s health we’re not there yet.

About 20% of the population lives with long term pain, not everyone is diagnosed with this and therefore not counted in the statistics so I think there is quite a large number of hidden statistics that we don’t see.

No one wants to live with pain and the impact it has on our physical and mental health, but we shouldn’t have to be ashamed and neglected by doctors, physiotherapists, families, friends and employers! I am tired of hearing people talk about us as whining old ladies!

I want to break the stigma about long term pain. Stop the shaming and let’s talk about it!
Join me in my free live webinar about how to be the CEO of long term pain. Register here!

See you soon,
Cattis

Why You?

Have you ever asked yourself the question “Why me?” when something bad happens to you? 
I know I have. But not for many years now. I realized it’s not a constructive question to ask because it will most certainly not give any answers.
For some years me and my friends also talked about “This year will be the best year!” and then something even worse happened that year, so I’ve quit with that saying too… 

To feel pity about yourself won’t get you anywhere, of course, to have a mental breakdown once in a while is something I think we all need sometimes. Actually, I had one earlier this week. It made me put my computer away, watched some sad, “cryable” movies on Netflix, eating chocolate and cried for a couple of hours. It gave me so much relief and energy to continue with my work later on.

But to get caught up being a victim of feelings and circumstances for too long is not going to make anything better. 

Life isn’t fair. I am totally aware of that. But it is your choice if you will stay as a victim or if you’re going to take the responsibility for your own life and your own pain journey.  

But how?

It is not easy to do it by yourself, you will have days when you feel hopeless, sad, depressed, bitter, angry and so on. And you know what?! That is ok! It proves you’re a human and not a robot. Don’t hide your feelings in a dark space in your body, they will explode at some time and the longer you’ll hide them away, the bigger explosion when they come up to the surface. But when you get stucked in the sadness, the bitterness and the angriness for a longer time, then it’s a warning bell ringing. Because that isn’t constructive at all. And it is not easy to get out of there alone.

That is why I’m now opening the doors to my 8 weeks digital program “Become the CEO of long term pain“. Because I know that a community with other people who are in the same situation is so powerful and important. You can’t demand that your family and friends can understand your pain and your feelings. Sometimes it is very lonely to live with long term pain, although you have friends and family around you, but you are alone in your situation. You don’t have to be, not anymore!

This is what you’ll get in this digital program:

Webinar with the theme of the week every Monday
– Acceptance
– Sleep
– Recovery
– Communication
– Physical activity
– Self treatment
– Mental resilience
– Ergonomy

You will also get:
– Life hacks
– Community with other people in the same situation
– Live group coaching every Thursday

In addition to this you will also get workbooks, relaxation and meditation sound files, checklists and lots of life hacks for managing your everyday life.

The doors for registration will be closed at Monday February 8th 23.00 PM CET. So hurry up!
Grab your seat already today!

Read more and register here!

Anything is possible – you maybe just have to do it in another way. I will help you find your way to become the best CEO of your pain which means you can be the CEO of your life, your business, job career and sports career.

With love,
Cattis